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In Loving What Is, bestselling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love—Is That True? examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others. In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you discover how to find genuine love and connection.
The usual advice offered in self-help books and reinforced by our culture advocates a stressful, all-consuming quest for love and approval. We are advised to learn self-marketing and manipulative skills — how to attract, impress, seduce, and often pretend to be something we aren't. This approach doesn't work. It leaves millions of walking wounded — those who, having failed to find love or appreciation, blame themselves and conclude that they are unworthy of love.
I Need Your Love—Is That True? helps you illuminate every area in your life where you seem to lack what you long for most — the love of your spouse, the respect of your child, a lover's tenderness, or the esteem of your boss. Through its penetrating inquiry, you will quickly discover the falseness of the accepted ways of seeking love and approval, and also of the mythology that equates love with need. Using the method in this book, you will inquire into painful beliefs that you've based your whole life on — and be delighted to see them evaporate. Katie shows you how unraveling the knots in the search for love, approval, and appreciation brings real love and puts you in charge of your ownhappiness.
Publishers Weekly writes
Katie reintroduces the form of self-questioning called "The Work" that she originally presented in Loving What Is, but here she tackles relationships - and what spoils them. According to Katie (writing with the help of Katz, who is also her agent), rather than seeking love and approval from others, you need to find them in yourself. What often blocks that love is one's perception of reality: "If you believe your stressful thoughts, your life is filled with stress. But if you question your thoughts, you come to love your life and everyone in it."
"The Work" is central to the process of taking a judgmental thought - such as "my partner is supposed to make me happy" - and subjecting it to four powerful questions, such as "Is it true?" and "Who or what would I be without the thought?" Then Katie suggests turning the thought around and considering different options, such as making yourself happy and making your partner happy. Finally, she suggests ways to find love and acceptance in yourself. Katie's chatty style and her use of detailed dialogues and simple exercises will make many readers feel transformation is inevitable. - Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.
Library Journal writes
In this sequel to her best-selling Loving What Is, Katie continues what she terms "The Work," this time using her four basic questions to help readers challenge their thoughts about relationships. She repeats her premise that nothing can make us unhappy except our own thoughts - i.e., regardless of how bad they might make us feel, our thoughts are not facts. When we finally challenge our thoughts and realize that the approval, love, and appreciation that we seek in our relationships can be found only within ourselves, we can become peaceful, happy, and free. By confronting our thoughts using Katie's questions, our relationships with loved ones, co-workers, friends, and acquaintances can be dramatically improved. This well-written guide includes many real-life examples of individuals and couples doing "The Work" and changing their lives. Highly recommended. - Wendy Lee, Marshall-Lyon Cty. Lib., MN Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.
Compact Disc - Abridged, 4 CDs, 5 hrs.
Pub. Date: April 2005
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